Tuesday, May 3, 2011

can justice ever look like forgiveness?

Last month was National Poetry Month, and my mind was preoccupied with a talk I gave on April 30 for the Greater St. Louis Hospice Organization's Volunteer Symposium on the Poetry of Hospice. I tried to blog about the process of putting this talk together, but instead of focusing me on what I wanted to say, I felt overwhelmed.  So, that's one of the main reasons I wasn't keeping up with the blog.   If you'd like more information on volunteering with any hospice, you could check out http://www.gslho.org/ or any local hospice group. 

Now.  Thinking about Osama bin Laden's death.  I wrote the beginning of what I think is a poem last night:  I stumbled on forgiveness like a gift I didn't want.  Here is what confuses me:  is it important to delineate between small scale hate, like bullying and large scale hate, like what has been perpetrated by Osama bin Laden?  I can forgive on the small scale.  In fact, in my own life, I have forgiven a number of transgressions.  Sometimes I've talked to the person who I felt wronged me, sometimes, the forgiveness was something internal.  Sometimes, I didn't even want to forgive - I even enjoyed holding onto my anger like a little souvenir from being wronged and it gave me a 'superiority' to know that I had been wronged.  But.  Over time, holding onto that anger was a waste of my energy.  The anger dissipated.  I realized that most people in our own little lives are not trying to, are not purposefully hurting us.  They are just living their lives.  Most people hurt us in ignorance, or out of the inability to get out of their own point of view, but they are not usually hurting us out of maliciousness.  What's the point in holding onto that anger or rage? 

But hate, evil, transgressions on a large scale...can that be forgiven?  Should it be forgiven?  If it is forgiven where is the justice?  I had several hospice patients who were Holocaust survivors.  Certainly, all their lives were shaped by that unimaginable experience.  But they each had a unique attitude toward it:  one man told me he "didn't go in for all this forgiveness business."   One woman said there was nothing special about her survival, only pure luck.  One woman espoused New Age philosphy/spirituality.  I think about Elie Wiesel and the great good he brings to the world through his memory and testament to the Jewish people, persecuted people everywhere and any person in despair.  Reading him, I am struck not by his damning of those who caused his suffering, but his commitment to and love of his fellow man. 

I don't know the answers here. I am challenged.  I know that forgiveness has been a good, freeing part of my own little life.  I think I am able to see  more objectively how others interact w/ me and my influence on others.  I feel a greater compassion and my own world is a  less threatening place.

On the global scale, it seems clear that some do have malicious intent toward us.  What is the ethically/morally correct response to this?  It is my gut feeling that more death and killing is not the best response, but if not that, then what?

It's very unsatisfying, but I don't have a way to wrap this up.  I would just like to raise the question(s) and continue to be a voice that is not afraid of not knowing.  A voice, that I hope without naivete or ignorance, can ponder words, ideas and feelings like Love and Forgiveness.

3 comments:

  1. hey katy,
    glad to see you blogging again. the below was sent to me today and i thought this was a good place to share it.

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    gvd

    A Meditation on the Death of Osama bin Laden

    Let us mark this moment with quiet reflection.
    Let us grieve the loss of life caused by Osama bin Laden and his Al Qaeda organization.
    Let us grieve the flames of fanaticism that he fanned.
    Let us grieve the path that he took, when so other many paths were open to him,
    Born to vast wealth and privilege, he could have been a force for great good.

    Let us be thankful for the bravery of the US special forces who did what had to be done.
    Bin Laden's threat to life was so great that there was no practical option but to kill him.
    But let us grieve that such actions ever have to be taken,
    And never take lightly the death of any human being, no matter how heinous his deeds.
    Let us respect our soldiers by showing our gratitude
    That they did it with minimal harm to noncombatants
    And that by showing such care, put themselves at great personal risk.

    Let us prayerfully remember the hundreds of thousands of lives lost
    And the billions of dollars spent over the past decade
    In America's reaction to the despicable acts of Osama bin Laden,
    And ask ourselves if there might have been a better way
    To discredit him and deny him support from his sympathizers.
    Let us recognize this better way, and follow it from this moment forward.

    Let us meditate on the choices before us now:
    The path of prideful gloating, or the path of respectful engagement,
    The path of hyper-nationalism, or the path of international cooperation.
    Let us take into account how this event is seen through eyes other than our own.
    Let us make this an occasion for humility
    That can inspire us to use our enormous strength with the utmost care,
    Standing alongside other nations and cultures to build a peaceful world.

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  2. from this site:

    http://tcpc.blogs.com/musings/

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  3. I posted this on my Facebook today:

    "There is one question that no one will ask of those who use violence to make their point: What hurts you so bad that you feel you have to hurt me in order to heal it?

    This does not condone violence, but it can help us to understand it -- and to understand how to stop it. No one does anything inappropriate, given their model of the world. Embracing the wisdom in those eleven words could change the course of human history."

    --Neale Donald Walsch

    and my friend Robert posted this:

    ‎"I will mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one...not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that; Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that." --MLK Jr.

    I think that says it all.

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